Reframing dating as the shadow’s search for shelter rather than the ego’s quest for perfection is honestly one of the most compassionate, liberating shifts I’ve come across. It explains so much of my past—why I felt drawn to people who mirrored old wounds, why certain dynamics felt so familiar even when they were painful.
The prompt “Are those unmet childhood needs or valid adult needs?” stopped me in my tracks. That line alone could be its own 30-day journaling practice.
I also appreciated the way you surfaced gendered shadow fears—especially for men. You rarely see those articulated with that kind of clarity and tenderness.
Romancing the Shadow is already on my list, but now it just moved to the top. Thank you for continuing to make this inner work not only accessible, but beautiful.
Oh yes I really needed this, and thank you for the book recommendation. I will grab it once I finish my current read "The Book of Shadow Work" by Keila Shaheen 🙌🏾
Reframing dating as the shadow’s search for shelter rather than the ego’s quest for perfection is honestly one of the most compassionate, liberating shifts I’ve come across. It explains so much of my past—why I felt drawn to people who mirrored old wounds, why certain dynamics felt so familiar even when they were painful.
The prompt “Are those unmet childhood needs or valid adult needs?” stopped me in my tracks. That line alone could be its own 30-day journaling practice.
I also appreciated the way you surfaced gendered shadow fears—especially for men. You rarely see those articulated with that kind of clarity and tenderness.
Romancing the Shadow is already on my list, but now it just moved to the top. Thank you for continuing to make this inner work not only accessible, but beautiful.
I appreciate I also want people to be aware about this side !
Oh yes I really needed this, and thank you for the book recommendation. I will grab it once I finish my current read "The Book of Shadow Work" by Keila Shaheen 🙌🏾